Important links

Here are a few articles that make some important links in domestic violence cases.

Domestic violence victim, Maria Garcia, “feared” getting help

She said Maria went to the police station more than once, but never filed a report. She said her friend feared talking to police would make the situation more dangerous for her four children.

Fear – not stupidity – is what often keeps women from leaving their abuser. They may be fearful for their lives, their children, or even their pets. It’s important that the media communicate this.

Dad charged with stalking daughter

Dennis Hobbs, 59, is barred by a restraining order from going near his 19-year-old daughter now.

 Police said they found a loaded gun, a video camera, a wig and a notebook detailing his daughter’s whereabouts in Hobbs’ car.

 Hobbs was dressed in black and had painted his face black, police said.

 He was arrested after being spotted driving slowly around a women’s shelter where his daughter told police she had taken refuge out of fear of an overly protective and religious father who disapproved of her relationship with her boyfriend.

 Hobbs’ attorney called it a case of a concerned father worried about his daughter living in a high-crime neighborhood.

 According to the police report, Hobbs sent his daughter several e-mails prior to his arrest.

 One read, “I love you, but there is no loving way to do what I must.”

 When he was arrested, Hobbs told police, “You just signed her death certificate.”

This is what women fear – retaliation for seeking help.

 And here’s an important link:  child custody

Lake Havasu man kills 5, then himself Suspect in custody dispute with mother of children, police say

Police said Sunday that the alleged gunman, 26-year-old Brian Diez, had fathered 4-year-old Kaia Diez and 1-year-old Cole Diez with Langstaff.

 Lake Havasu City police Sgt. Joe Harrold says Diez was arrested Aug. 13 for violating a protection order Langstaff had against him.

 When police responded to the home, they discovered four people dead at the scene and two others — 20-year-old Brock Kelson and 44-year-old Deborah Nyland — needing medical attention. Police said Sunday that the alleged gunman, 26-year-old Brian Diez, had fathered 4-year-old Kaia Diez and 1-year-old Cole Diez with Langstaff.

Lake Havasu City police Sgt. Joe Harrold says Diez was arrested Aug. 13 for violating a protection order Langstaff had against him.

When police responded to the home, they discovered four people dead at the scene and two others — 20-year-old Brock Kelson and 44-year-old Deborah Nyland — needing medical attention.

He should be IN custody, not WITH custody

We learn that this man punched his ex-girlfriend and threatens to kill her and her children and threatens suicide (a suicidal abuser is extremely dangerous).

A Gastonia man is accused of punching his ex-girlfriend in the back of the head and threatening to kill her and her two young children before committing suicide.

We learn that this man has joint custody:

Gilmore and the accuser have a joint custody arrangement.

We read his words, as if they were straight from a domestic violence textbook:

“…(I)f I can’t have you, nobody can,” Gilmore allegedly told her. “I’ll kill you, the kids, then myself.”

And then we read in print, right before our very eyes, a dirty little “secret” in family courts nationwide:

A Gaston County magistrate released him on a $5,000 unsecured bond and ordered him to have no contact with the accuser outside of their child custody agreement.

He continues to have child custody.

I sincerely hope this doesn’t have a textbook ending.

Read the full article here: Gastonia man accused of punching ex-girlfriend, threatening to kill her, kids, self