I come across these cases weekly if not daily: court-ordered abuse. It involves the family court judge allowing visitation or custody of a child to a parent that physically, mentally or sexually abused him or her. The Leadership Council on Child Abuse estimates that more than 50,000 children are placed in this situation each year.
Worse, one way for a parent to get out of an accusation of abuse is to allege “parental alienation syndrome” (pas). PAS is a term used to describe how a parent (most often the mother is accused) “poisons” the mind of a child against the other parent. It is a simplistic term that lacks scientific standards and fails to examine how feelings of hostility can be natural when parents divorce or when a child witnesses violence.
In Brave Girl, 12, Tells Judge: Never Let My Father Out ! the child was sexually abused by her father during court-ordered weekend visits. She tells the judge she never wants to see her father again. Why did he have visitation in the first place?
Sexual abuse claims are not always believed – many judges think women are being malicious and vindictive when they make these claims. Moreover, when a child states she doesn’t want to see her father again, the dads are claiming it’s PAS. Both of these issues, along with other factors, have put our family courts in a state of crisis, where the best interests of the child are not being met.
Here’s another one: Boyfriend Convicted of Toddler’s Murder, But Jury Says No Death Penalty.
Jessica Davis said she suspected Jarred Knight had been abusing her son. She testified about a change in the boy’s behavior, saying, “Tyler would latch onto me, even made marks on my neck, kick, cry, scream. It would seem that he didn’t want to go with him.”
If these behaviors, which mimic “parental alienation syndrome,” can be found in an intact relationship with cases of abuse, ya think they can be found in divorcing couples withouth the court thinking the woman was malicious?! One can only hope – the welfare and lives of women and children depend on it.