On marrying prisoners

So there was an article in Salon the other day that brought a lot of thoughts and questions to mind:

My husband, the convicted murderer  In a nutshell, this woman was a journalist, visited a prison, and fell in love with a convict. He was found guilty of murdering a gang member.

  • I wondered if there had ever been a study looking at the influence of cultural indicators like: Beauty & the Beast; King Kong and Fay Wray; the Hunchback of Notre Dame & Ismeralda — well, you get it. I wonder if movies like these send girls (and boys) a message.
  • I wondered if anyone has ever looked at men’s rate of visiting and marrying female prisoners. An acquaintance of mine works at a female prison and she says it tends to be family members visiting rather than boyfriends or husbands.
  • I thought again of how women often lose their children while in jail while men don’t  (See: Prison shouldn’t be a bar to motherhood )
  • This led me to think about the Fatherhood Initiative (you know – actually federal funding going to men only!) which gives federal funds to programs that unite prisoners with their children because kids need their dads (but apparently not their moms).
  • Okay, so federal funding led me to think of the Violence Against Women Act, which MRAs usually say “discriminates” against men and is the only federal funding source going to women alone (not true). I usually compare funding for VAWA ($5.8 B over 5 years) with funding for prisons ($60 B over 5 years). That’s a huge discrepancy in supporting victims vs. supporting perpetrators. Certainly, we fund college educations for prisoners and not domestic violence or rape victims. What does that say about our society?
  • I was also told (by a law student) that prisoners can marry mail-order-brides and give them citizenship while women fleeing domestic violence have a hard time getting asylum here.
  • Okay, back to the article. I had once read that suicidal women get involved with guys like Scott Peterson – it’s a passive form of commiting suicide. Could that be true
  • And lastly, the media tend to call many perpetrators of domestic violence homicides “nice guys” that “snapped” – can that have anything at all to do with this?