Media helped expose history of domestic violence

Here’s a case where the media helped expose domestic violence allegations from a sherriff – who was able to keep his gun and job and then ended up killing his wife, two of her friends, and himself:

As has been nationally reported, on Feb.12, 2010, Clackamas County Sheriff Sgt. Jeffery Grahn, 46, killed his wife Charlotte, 47, two of her friends–Kathleen Hoffmeister, 53, and Victoria Schulmerich, 53–and then himself at a bar in Gresham, Ore., a suburb of Portland.

Sadly, it was after-the-fact:  

For weeks after the shooting the Sheriff’s Office of Clackamas County denied there were warning signs of domestic violence in Jeffery Grahn’s personal life prior to the shootings.

Under pressure from local media, however, it made public documents that since have been widely reported on, showing allegations of domestic abuse just 10 months before the shooting.

In April 2009, the Sheriff’s Office was investigating possible officer-related domestic violence in the case of Jeffery Grahn and his wife after a tip from Chris Kipper, a friend of the family and a probation officer married to an Oregon State patrol officer. Kipper said she feared receiving a phone call one day “if something wasn’t done … with Jeff being reportedly suicidal … that the result could be Jeff killing his family and then himself.”

They were also withholding this evidence:

One of Charlotte Grahn’s sisters and her brother, Trapp, also reported incidents of abuse, including one in which Jeffrey Grahn held a gun to his wife’s head and another when he injured her badly enough that she was hospitalized.

Women’s eNews recently asked Dave Thomas, a retired Montgomery County Maryland police officer familiar with the case, to review how the Grahn case was handled. Thomas, now at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, Md., trains police departments across the country about officer-involved domestic violence.

“We’re talking here about someone who is incredibly dangerous and agencies with prior knowledge,” Thomas said in a phone interview. “The totality of it says even if he wasn’t physically abusing her–which I totally think he was–there was enough administratively to pull his badge and gun given everything that’s going on. He’s a danger to himself, to his family and to the community.”

But they didn’t pull his badge and gun – and he killed 3 people before committing a cowardly act of suicide. There’s so much propaganda about women “falsely” accusing men of domestic violence and “ruining” their careers. I’d like to see the proof. Nearly every one of the articles I come across clearly states how the perps kept – even prospered in – their jobs. Until they kill themselves or end up in jail, that is. Evidently, society prefers this to trying to actually prevent domestic violence.

Read more here:  Oregon officer wife-abuse probe preceded killings

Where’s the outrage?

In the “Where is the outrage” department, we have a recent case of a woman who alleged abuse to THREE different judges – and not one of them believed her. Result? A nine-month-old baby is dead.

This woman was denied a restraining order, called a liar in court and suffered the loss of her infant (and ex-husband).  All because of the propaganda machine (thanks to the MRAs and FR guys) that say women make false allegations of domestic violence to manipulate the court.  Apparently, the courts would prefer to save the man’s good name (you know, because the MRAs claim that restraining orders taint men’s reputations) than protect the woman and child from harm – dah! Why do that?


Deadly consequences:  Judges rejected mom’s bid for restraining orders

VICTORVILLE • A woman whose ex-boyfriend murdered their infant son and then killed himself had sought a restraining order from two San Bernardino County judges only days before the murder-suicide, according to court records (click here to view records) obtained by the Daily Press.
Katie Tagle petitioned two San Bernardino County court judges for a restraining order only days before her former boyfriend, Stephen Garcia, killed himself and their 9-month-old son, Wyatt. Both requests were denied — in spite of Tagle telling a local judge that Garcia had threatened to kill their son.
My suspicion is you’re lying,” Judge Robert Lemkau said, according to transcripts from a Jan. 21 hearing in Victorville court, “but I’m keeping the custody orders in full force and effect.”
Wyatt was then turned over to Garcia that day. Both Garcia and the child were found dead 10 days later on a Twin Peaks dirt road, after Garcia took Wyatt during a court-ordered visitation.
“Having that restraining order really could’ve helped this situation and possibly may have swayed a judge to grant supervised visitations,” said Anita Gomez, case manager for A Better Way Domestic Violence Shelter.
Lemkau, who couldn’t be reached for comment, denied to make permanent a temporary restraining order signed by another judge — who at first denied Tagle’s original restraining order request.
Family members said when Tagle went in front of Judge David Mazurek in a Joshua Tree courtroom on Jan. 12, Mazurek denied the permanent restraining order despite the 23-year-old reporting Garcia had recently been abusive to her.

Dad’s murder-suicide of infant son documented on facebook, personal website

Family say courtsshut down restraining orders 

And here’s the transcript of the case — it’s awful!! Read the clear bias where he calls her a liar, refers to false allegations (in order to interrupt the father’s access to the child) and how he interrupts her when she tries to present her evidence:

Tagle-Garcia court transcript

Custody catastrophes

In this week’s custody catastrophe news, we have:

Baby’s father, charged with murder, upset by relocation plan

GARY — Distraught because his 19-month-old daughter might move with her mother to Texas, Cordell Richardson took the girl and, according to police, said “nobody was going to take his daughter away” before shooting and killing her.

Richardson, 22, is charged with murder in the death of the girl, Eboni Richardson. Police said he shot her in downtown Gary on Thursday just as he was expected to turn her over to her uncle. Then he shot himself in the head.

Don’t you love this last sentence?

“He loved that baby,” Johnson said.

Yes, that’s the sentence I would end with in writing about a father who kills his 19-month-old daughter.

California dad on trial over drowning son, 6 in bathtub

SANTA ANA – A father faces trial for murdering his 6-year-old son by drowning him in a bathtub after becoming angry that his wages would be garnished to support his son and ex-wife.

Gideon Walter Omondi, 38, of Fullerton, is charged with one felony count of murder and one felony count of attempted murder.

He faces a maximum sentence of 25 years to life if convicted.

Opening statements are scheduled to begin Thursday.

Omondi moved to the United States in 2002 from Kenya to attend the California State University in Fullerton.

In 2004, his wife and young son, Richie Omondi, also moved to California to join him.

The defendant, who was illegally working several jobs while on a student visa, is accused of wanting to send his wife and son back to Kenya claiming it was too expensive to support a family in Orange County.

When his wife refused, Omondi is accused of filing for divorce. After the divorce, Omondi and his ex-wife were granted joint custody. Omondi is accused of becoming angry that his wages would be garnished to support his ex-wife and son.

On Jan. 6, 2006, Omondi is accused of becoming angry following a family court hearing.

He is accused of driving with his son to a desolate stretch of highway near Bakersfield with the intention of murdering Richie and killing himself.

Omondi is accused of parking the car on the side of the road, dousing the trunk of his BMW sedan with gasoline, and closing himself and his son in the trunk with matches in his pocket with the intention of setting the trunk on fire.

A passing California Highway Patrol officer noticed the car and stopped to check on it, believing it had been abandoned. The officer observed shoes outside of the trunk of the car and opened the trunk, finding the defendant and his son inside.

Omondi is accused of claiming that the pair had been sleeping. The officer allowed the defendant to leave but documented the contact.

On Sept. 8, 2006, Omondi, who had custody of his son for the weekend, is accused of picking up 6-year-old Richie from day care.

At approximately 7:30 p.m. on Sept. 10, 2006, Omondi is accused of filling up his bathtub in his Fullerton apartment and intentionally drowning Richie. He is accused of then removing his son’s lifeless body and leaving him on the bed for two hours.

At approximately 9:30 p.m., Omondi is accused of driving to the Fullerton Police Department (FPD) to tell them about his son.

Officers from FPD went to Omondi’s home and found Richie dead in the bed, under the covers, with his head on the pillow. The pillow was still wet from the victim being placed there after being drowned.

So, one guy wants his wife to STAY and the other wants her to GO. Why is it that some of these men kill if they don’t get their way? What is a custodial parent’s rights in regard to where he or she chooses to live? And, WHY did this man continue to have custody after attemping a murder-suicide?!?

And, here’s another:

Assigned to check abuse, social worker impregnates client

A state social worker who investigated a report of child abuse for the Bureau of Milwaukee Child Welfare later had sex with the child’s emotionally troubled mother and impregnated her. He then hid the woman’s pregnancy and the birth of their daughter from the bureau, even as the mother sought to retain custody of two other children, the Journal Sentinel has learned.

The 56-year-old social worker, Peter J. Nelsen, was allowed to resign from the bureau April 15, according to bureau records.

Within months of his resignation, the bureau removed the 1-year-old girl from her mother and placed her in Nelsen’s home. The other children – a 5-year-old girl and a 3-year-old boy – also had been removed.

Nelsen is now seeking sole custody of the 1-year-old.

“Everything that I love is gone,” said the 31-year-old mother, Theola Nealy.

And, Nelsen has the nerve to say:

“This was not a woman I was going to leave my child with,” he said. “This woman really isn’t all there.”

So, he fucked her and kept the baby. Who was it, a prime minister in Japan that called women baby machines? I suppose that’s what this woman was seen as by Nelsen and his accomplices.