It appears the Houston Press listed the state’s top 10 hottest female sex offenders — this is wrong on so many levels! I’m going to provide the link to Hay Ladies! where Andrea Grimes has covered this story – with updates, petitions, and apologies.
Another false allegation story…so would the public perception of false allegations be comparable to stats on false allegations, or would the public think false allegations were higher or lower than they really are? You already know my answer if you read my blog.
The media continues to highlight false allegations and ignore the huge amount of abuse cases that go unreported. Not only that, when they do discuss false allegations they don’t put them into context. Reporting on these cases tend to tilt the “he said she said” female credibility-questioning scale. It shores up the ‘nice guys’ cred and pounds home the message that accusations –any–can ruin a man’s reputation and career (hence situations like the one regarding the reporting on the gang rape of an 11-year-old girl in the NY Times where they discussed the community’s concern for the rapists’ futures). It also makes people question the very right of women to press charges.
Some of the MRAs that talk of false allegations, for instance, would have you believe that (1) men never make false allegations – and indeed the media don’t report on these, or they call them ‘set ups’ or other such terms indicating skill rather than vengeance and (2) men should be immune from abuse charges (for example, they say they’ve been a victim of a false allegation – well, the criminal justice system did it’s job, didn’t it? – charges were pressed and they were cleared – nobody’s immune from being charged with a crime -whether they committed or not is up to the justice system to decide). And, I’d add they believe (3) women never get falsely accused. But back to the idea that women don’t have a right to report charges – because, you know, they’d ruin a man’s career (how long have we been hearing this?!) — this is exactly why many women don’t report. [Examples – Women in domestic violence cases, many of whom are dependent on the husband’s income, don’t report. Women raped by a friend in college – don’t report because they don’t want to ruin the guy’s future.] And society often feels the same – it’s why I say there’s more sympathy for the accused than the abused.
Yes, I have sympathy for this man – it sounds like he was falsely accused for a malicous purpose if this story is true. But – come on guys — a fair media would balance these reports out not tip the scales in the accused’s favor all the time.
Sometimes public opinion (or outdated research) holds more weight than facts. Too bad Japan is now considering joining a treaty that should be rehauled.
Japan has been under international pressure to join the child custody treaty, which would help resolve cases in which foreign parents are prevented from seeing their children in Japan after their marriages with Japanese nationals fail.
In 1980, an international treaty was designed to return children who had been abducted by a parent who moved to another country. Back then, the people drafting the treaty thought the typical abductor would be a noncustodial father skipping town with the kids, leaving mom with little recourse to try to get her children back. So what happens, three decades later, when research indicates that 68% of the abducting parents in cases under this treaty are mothers — and that many of them are fleeing abusive spouses?
The Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction, dubbed the Hague Convention after the place where it was finalized, has been adopted by 82 countries, which are expected to help return abducted children to their habitual residence within six weeks of a parent filing a petition. But Jeffrey Edleson and Taryn Lindhorst, lead researchers on a new study of Hague Convention cases, argue that the treaty is often used against women seeking safety for themselves — and for their children — from violent husbands. “We always thought that child abduction is a bad thing,” says Edleson, a professor of social work at the University of Minnesota. “But in some cases, mothers are taking children to protect them from greater harm.”
Consider writing a letter to the editor at the Japan Times – they’ve covered this issue
I’ve had a few posts recently about the media (Dateline for one) only covering fathers’ side of custody cases. (FYI -The Today Show covered the case where the woman lost custody because she had breast cancer). Well, here are 4 cases in the news where the father had unsupervised visitation or custody and abuse and/or murder occured. Look at the 1st case – this guy had a history of assault and crime. How did a judge give him unsupervised visitation? Why do our family courts place young children in the care of adults with a history of crime and violence?!?
And how is it that the media continues to highlight a few fathers seeking custody rather than the problem of many parents getting custody when they shouldn’t?
This “devoted” father ‘loved them’ to death. Another ‘nice guy kills’ story. Yeah, these nice guys are too much, aren’t they?
“Toya then decided then at that point in time, she really didn’t want to be with him,” Magwood said.
Magwood said the couple tried to come to an agreement about sharing custody of Tyaijah, but their conflict escalated when Hester found out Smith was dating another man.
“Tyrone loved the baby, but he did state that no other man was going to raise his child,” Magwood said. “Never did he say he would kill Toya, he would kill himself or he would kill the baby. He never gave you the impression that he would do something like this. It was more or less like a jealous rage. That was his heart. He couldn’t really accept them breaking up. He wasn’t ready to let go.”
Still, Magwood said Hester was a devoted father and that Smith didn’t see Tyaijah alive after last Thursday because she was with him.
Apparently this father had custody of his daughter. There’s no mention of the biological mom.
Lynch told investigators Sims allegedly grabbed his daughter by the throat and punched her in the chest, causing her to collapse, sheriff’s Detective Ralph Losasso testified Tuesday.
When his attempts to revive her failed, Sims allegedly told his girlfriend he wanted to dissolve the body in the tub with acid, Losasso said.
Sims changed his mind after learning he would need a license to get the acid he needed, Losasso said.
On April 20th, a Lehigh Acres woman notified the Cape Coral Police Department that her 5-year-old daughter had been beaten by her father, Rickey Anthony Washington, 23, while she was visiting his Cape Coral home.
In an interview with child protective investigators, the girl said she had woken up in the middle of the night to find that no one was home. She then used her father’s girlfriend’s cell phone to call for help before going back to sleep.
Shortly afterwards, the girl says Washington woke her up and asked her about the phone call.
She told police he slapped her, then got a metal coat hanger from the closet ans spanked her with it, reports said.
She also told investigators that Washington also used a belt to spank her, according to reports.
An inspection of the girl’s buttocks revealed several bruises and cuts.
An autopsy showed the boy had suffered “blunt force trauma to his body with internal bleeding and a skull fracture,” according to court records. He had been missing, unnoticed, for two years, authorities said.
Lake County sheriff’s police began investigating the boy’s death last week after receiving a tip from the boy’s estranged biological mother.
According to records, the sheriff’s office received a call from Christian’s mother, saying her 17-year-old daughter in Kentucky relayed some concerning information about her son. Detectives called the girl in Kentucky and interviewed her by phone.
According to police, Christian’s mother relinquished custody of the boy and his sister to their biological father in July 2005.
Christian’s older sister told authorities that she believed the boy was kept in the cage so he wouldn’t run away and tell his biological mom about the abuse.
“Relinquished custody” or perhaps the judge granted him custody?
Hillary Clinton has been edited out of the photo in the White House Situation Room because of her gender:
That would be the Ultra-Orthodox Hasidic broadsheet Der Tzitung, published in Brooklyn. The paper photoshopped Clinton, as well at the only other woman who could be seen in the room–Audrey Tomason, the national director of counterterrorism–out of the frame.
Here’s what Der Tzitung had to say about this situation:
“In accord with our religious beliefs, we do not publish photos of women, which in no way relegates them to a lower status… Because of laws of modesty, we are not allowed to publish pictures of women, and we regret if this gives an impression of disparaging to women, which is certainly never our intention. We apologize if this was seen as offensive.”
That’s really funny – they don’t want to be seen as relegating women to “a lower status” or being “disparaging to women.” Then why don’t they forbid men to buy/see these broadsheets? They are called broad sheets afterall – let the broads see them and keep them out of the hands of men. Easy peazy.
Happy Mother’s Day to all – to those that have children, to those that have lost children, and to those that care for children.
When we hated mom – NY Times article by Stephanie Coontz – provides an historical account of motherhood from a (feminist) sociological perspective. Feminism, Coontz explains, has improved the lives of women (and men) – but, hey, we knew that! Interesting to note, though, society’s disparaging view of protective mothers:
Momism became seen as a threat to the moral fiber of America on a par with communism. In 1945, the psychiatrist Edward Strecher argued that the 2.5 million men rejected or discharged from the Army as unfit during World War II were the product of overly protective mothers.
From the Washington Post, we have an article on racism…onMother’s Day. Granted, I don’t get a home copy of the Post, but this is all I could find in their daily email of headlines. It seems some media outlets would rather celebrate anniversaries (Freedom Riders, David Goldman reuniting with his son) rather than Mothers. I object to racism too, but when can we get national discussions going on sexism? They can even be combined. But, as one writer pointed out, it’s worse to be a racist than a rapist. Both should be despised.
The heartless way Conservatives treat young women who choose to have babies by Amanda Marcotte
Everytime I think the Republicans/Conservatives couldn’t get any worse, they surprise me with their renewed spirit of misogyny. Gotta give it to them for disguising hate with “fiscal responsibility.” There’s always some reason to put women’s issues on the back burner…or to just burn them.
The girls were arrested for holding a sit-in to protest the closing of their school, the Catherine Ferguson Academy, which was established to serve students who are pregnant or mothering. The school provides day care and parenting classes, and focuses on getting students to college and giving them skills that help future self-sufficiency. Supposedly “pro-life” conservatives should not only be supporting this school, but demanding that every high school in the country provide these services to teenage mothers. After all, these girls did what anti-choicers ask of them. They chose to have their babies. And now the very same conservatives that wax sentimental about “choosing life” are working to shut down the educational opportunities of young women who did what anti-choicers want, by having their babies.
Don’t forget the women who’ve had injuries or their lives cut short from the men that supposedly loved them and fathered children with them – and, please, don’t forget that it’s more often when these women do the “right thing” that they get injured or killed (far too many people, including feminists, blame the victim for “staying” with an abuser) –
Orange County prosecutors have charged a 36-year-old man with murdering his ex-wife and her father after they came to his home to take court-ordered custody of the couple’s 7-year-old daughter.
Ex-wife. She left him. They came to take court-ordered custody. Court must have granted dad custody if they came to take her back. It wasn’t enough to kill the ex-wife. He killed her father, too — he shot them both in the backs, the coward. This 7-year-old just lost her mother (and grandfather) in the week leading up to Mother’s Day.
Roughly 3 women die every day in domestic violence in this country. This week alone, we’ve lost 21 women, many of whom were mothers.
Fresno – Four kids are dealing with the loss of their mother after a murder-suicide in southeast Fresno Tuesday.
The kids were joined about 100 family members and friends Wednesday night for a candlelight vigil.
They gathered on Shields Avenue, the spot where 28-year-old Jennifer Puentes Chatman died, after her ex-boyfriend, 34-year-old Richard Haynes, shot her.
She is the victim of a deadly domestic violence dispute.
This article also ‘blamed the victim’, saying she had chances to leave, but didn’t. But – why didn’t she? Because he threatened to take or kill the kids? Because she feared sharing custody with him or worse, losing custody all together? Because she didn’t have faith in the justice system? Because she feared not being believed? Because women are in greatest danger when they leave?
This 37-year-old stay-at-home mother lost custody of her 2 children because she was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. She lives in North Carolina. The father is taking the kids to Illinois. Nice. What a Mother’s Day.
No woman, no cry – Oprah is offering this documentary for free for the next ten days. It discusses death during childbirth.
Lori has spent the last eight years fighting the courts for custody of her two children. It began, she said, with her accusing her then-husband of abusing their 3-year-old boy and year-old girl. It ended with him gaining custody and her getting visitation rights.
“He drained me out,” said the 47-year-old Westfield woman, who declined to give her full name for fear it would hurt her future custody chances. She can’t afford a lawyer and has to represent herself after spending more than $100,000 in legal fees over the years.
She was a housewife. He is a lawyer. She has little money. He has lots.
It is a formula that legal experts and advocates say creates a lopsided matchup in the courtroom for custody cases – one in which the mother most often loses.
It looks like HE takes HER to the cleaners – then, why, oh why, does the media portray the opposite?
And, remember, there’s a candlelight vigil tonight from 6-9 pm in front of the White House (see post below).
Happy Mother’s Day to all — Let’s work towards improving the very lives that give us life
Hasn’t David Goldman had enough media attention? Last year he got 2 precious hours of air time. How has he managed to woo the media (as well as a Congressman)? He’s scheduled to appear on Dateline on Mother’s Day tomorrow. On Mother’s Day? Really? Despite the fact that 58% of international abductions involve DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, the media prefer to talk about fathers — on Mother’s Day. (And, as a domestic violence survivor & activist told me – Sean Goldman’s mother is dead and his grandmother, whom he was close to, has probably not seen him since Goldman took him to the US – I’m sure Dateline will fill us in tonight–on MOTHER’s DAY – grrrr)
EDIT: I went back & looked at the article that discusses the Hague Convention. It mentioned that 68% of international abductions involve women, many of whom are fleeing domestic violence. Sorry I didn’t state this correctly – I was going by memory.
Finally, some good news!
A recent Montana Supreme Court decision means that domestic violence victims no longer can be forced into mediation over custody arrangements in divorce cases.
“Parents and children are going to be safer because of this decision,” said Monte Jewell, the Missoula attorney who appealed the case, Hendershott v. Westphal, to the Supreme Court.
May 5, 2011
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
PRESS CONFERENCE May 6th, 2011 at 12 Noon
Location: US Supreme Court One First Street, NE Washington, DC 20543
Sidewalk in front of the US Supreme Court
HISTORIC US SUPREME COURT CASE
Child Advocates and Legal Scholars are anxiously awaiting the filing of a
Petition for Writ of Certiorari on May 6, 2011 at 12 noon at the US Supreme
Court in Washington, D.C. in the Sacks v. Sacks case.
This truly will be an Historic Day at the US Supreme Court, for America’s
children and their “Protective Parents”, as this landmark case is being hand
delivered by a Florida Mother and exposes a national crisis all over the US.
The Sacks v. Sacks case is the perfect opportunity for the US Supreme Court to
thoroughly explore and address the issue of Battered Mothers and child abuse,
and their documented evidence of “protective parents” losing custody and the
failure of family courts and Child Protective Services to thoroughly investigate
and handle Domestic Violence, child sexual/and or child physical abuse cases
properly, therefore resulting in a verdict, contrary to the “bests interests of
Kathleen Russell, from the Center for Judicial Excellence, in the California
Progress Report, on 10/19/09 “When Family Courts Get It Wrong”, says “When a
parent harms his or her own child, family courts are supposed to step in and
safeguard the victim. Can you imagine what a tragedy it would be if courts
awarded custody to the wrong parent Actually according to one conservative
estimate, more than 58, 000 children a year are court ordered by family courts
into unsupervised visitation contact with physically or sexually abusive parents
following a divorce in the U.S. The fact that this type of scandal is taking
place in the American justice system defies the imagination. Not since the Roman
Catholic Church pedophile scandal has the US seen this type of institutional
harm inflicted on innocent children.” (www.centerforjudicalexcelllence.org)
The National Organization for Women, NOW and the NOW Ad Hoc Law Committee
are addressing this issue and in their Spring 2011, “and explore what can
happen to a protective mother and her children when she does nothing more than
to protect her children”, as quoted on page 36 of the Petition for Certiorari.
The Petitioner, in the US Supreme Court case, Linda Marie Sacks, has been chosen
as the “Poster Mother” of the Family Court Crisis, is interviewed for the
article.(www.now.org) Click on the Family Law Spring Newsletter.
On April 21, 2011, in the BMCCVI Digest Number 2011, reports that Eileen King
representing Justice for Children participated in the Office of Violence Against
Women Roundtable Discussion that took place at George Washington University Law
School. The Roundtable was organized by Rita Smith, the Director of the National
Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Prof. Joan Meier, Director of the
Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment and Appeals Project (DVLEAP) at GWU Law
School. OVW will post a report about the Roundtable on their website in the near
future. (www.justiceforchildren.org) and (www.dvleap.org)
As noted by Barry Goldstein, Esq. The Office of Violence Against Women (OVW) is
part of the US Justice Department that provides grants for programs to reduce
and prevent domestic violence. They recently sponsored a forum for their staff
and other professionals in various parts of the government to learn about the
crisis in the custody court system.
“It was a discussion based upon current scientific research and actual
experiences that courts are routinely making catastrophic mistakes in failing to
protect children and domestic violence survivors.
Linda Marie Sacks, a Florida Mother, truly the “All American Mom”, has only seen
her children at the Family Tree House Visitation Center for 82 hours in the
last 4 years and 2 months, is challenging the “Best Interests of The Children”
Statute 61.13, as Domestic Violence, child sexual and physical abuse must be
considered in a judge’s decision determining the “Best Interests of the
Children”. In the Pro se Cert Petition, Sacks raises the constitutional
implications of a fit parent to the care, custody, of her children, and without
a finding of unfitness by clear and convincing evidence, established by the US
Supreme Court ruling in Santosky v. Kramer, U.S. 745, 769-770 (1982).
Her daughters said in April 2007, “Mommy fight for us and do something every day
to get us back and don’t ever stop”. Their Mother not only kept her promise to
them, but nowisa national spokesperson on the child custody crisis, and is
speaking up for her children, and all of America’s children affected by the
failure of our justice system to protect our most innocent children from sexual
and physical abuse. She is a formidable legal opponent, as she has been self
taught, going to “Internet Law School” to continue her legal challenge after
spending $140,000 to undo an unjust custody decision. The Fifth District Court
of Appeals REVERSED and REMANDED the issue of child custody back to the lower
court for a violation of the Petitioners constitutional rights to due process,
in 08/08. This rare reversal provided no relief as the lower court of Judge
Shawn L. Briese refused to abide by the Appeals court and refused to protect the
children and said one child lied about being sexually abused.
In an article by John Weiss, from Post-Bulletin, Rochester, MN , “Do children
lie about sexual abuse? Not Usually.” Children do lie, but seldom about being
abused. “All human beings can and do lie, but it’s hard for kids to do it about
sex”, said Victor Vieth, the director of the national Child Protection Training
Center at Winona State University. “They can’t lie about something they have no
knowledge of” he said, and children don’t learn about oral sex from Sesame
Dr. Deborah Day of Psychological Affiliates, the court ordered custody evaluator
said the minor child at 8 years old had pediatric bipolar and that negates any
child sexual abuse, and then thwarted the DCF investigation. The court record
clearly showed that the child DID NOT have bipolar, but the trial court still
refused to protect the children, which is typical from cases all over the US.
One day justice will prevail for America’s children. Could it be in the Sacks v.
National Advocacy groups and Mothers will be attending events to shed light on
this crisis in America’s Courts.
Mothers Day, May 8th, 2011 in Washington DC will also have the Mothers of Lost
Children from 6-9:30 PM at the White House.
6:00 pm speak out
7:00 pm march
7:45 Candlelight vigil
Information will be available on Sunday night about activities onMonday.
And another group will be having the:
Million Mom March Mother’s Day 2011 in Washington DC
For more information and press
Center for Judicial Excellence
495 Miller Avenue, Suite 304
Mill Valley, CA 94941
Main 415.388.9600 Fax 415.388.4610
Arizona State University researchers found the public favored shared parenting “favored by most fathers’ groups” even when conflict was present. What it didn’t mention is that experts ‘favor’ shared parenting when there is low-to-moderate conflict, not high conflict and certainly not in cases of abuse (domestic violence or child abuse). Access should not be more important than safety, but that seems to be the course we’re on.
Here’s some links that caution use of presumptive shared custody: