Super Bowl Sunday and Domestic Violence

Dispelling a Myth: Domestic Violence and the Super Bowl by Esta Soler

Here’s the truth:  In 1993, the Super Bowl and domestic violence became linked when a small group of advocates erroneously claimed that Super Bowl Sunday was a “day of dread” for women when domestic violence skyrocketed.  There’s no reliable evidence to support that claim and most of us who work in the field say that – over and over again.  Instead, we make the point that domestic, dating and sexual violence are serious problems every day of the year. 

The movement has spent the past 18 years saying that these claims aren’t true, at every opportunity.  We urge reporters not to write that story, and the responsible ones don’t.

But opponents won’t let it go.  They use it as a way to bash feminists, “bleeding heart liberals,” women, and what they call the “domestic violence industry” – a term that is truly laughable when you realize that they are talking about shelters that struggle to afford food and bedding for desperate women and children, and to keep their doors open in this recession.

If anyone doubts that there is backlash and contention against advocates who work to stop domestic violence and violence against women, please see the comment posted on this article by Joseph M. (No doubt more will follow by other guys like him.) I myself have been bashed, called the Feminist Propaganda Minister of the site I used to write for, threatened, and called horrid names – – all because I write about violence towards women.

The Victims Rights Movement of the 70s exposed men’s violence towards women and children – and the insecure men still deny it, pretty much use abusive tactics themselves, and claim men are the real victims. They also like to throw in our face how evil women are – we kill babies, commit most child abuse, and are even more aggressive than men. Sorry guys, but we don’t have to be perfect in order to have protection against domestic violence, rape or stalking.

Joseph_M Esta answers the question in February 5, 2011 – 6:56pm

Esta answers the question in her article, which quotes the number of women who are murdered by their partners, but not men who are murdered by theirs. Does Esta believe that men are second rate citizens, not deserving of equal protection under the law?  Since she can advocate programs on “violence against women” can we assume that she thinks that men’s lives are worthless?  If her son were to be killed by a girlfriend or wife, she would have no problem there?

 If the feminist myth of Superbowl Sunday were an isolated case, it might be dropped. But the reason that it needs to be kept in the public consciousness is because it is part of a spectrum of misinformation that has been perpetuated by feminists over the past decades.  Consider other feminist falsehoods, such as “1 in 4 women is a victim of rape.” And then look at how this leads to mass hysteria which inevitably comes down to violence against men in the form of false charges of rape and sexual assault–the Duke University Three is simply the tip of this iceberg.  But then this is to be expected in a society which devalues men’s lives, and which make women into a privileged caste, worthy of special protections simply because of their sex. 

 Men commit acts of violence by FAR greater numbers than women do.

 Just as women lie about being raped more than men do. But this is not an excuse to deprive women of equal protection under the law. And that is what this is all about. By playing the woman-as-victim card, feminists manipulate male legislators into passing laws which give women additional rights while treating men as second class citizens.

Is that the sexual equality which is being demanded?  

Gee, is wanting safety from harm seeking “special protections” because of our sex. I guess Joseph thinks we should be hit or killed by our boyfriends and spouses and raped, too. We wouldn’t want to deprive men of that, would we? Why would we want to spoil their fun? Of course, according to Joseph’s world view, women lie about abuse. He had one case to prove his point, after all.

If Joseph were a random commenter, then I wouldn’t bother to post his remarks – but he’s not. Just about any article that deals with women’s issues, particularly those discussing domestic violence or rape, gets comments by guys like this. Sometimes it’s just one or two, sometimes it’s many – they come out of the wood work. When are reporters going to cover this issue? Aren’t hate groups being written about anymore?

4 comments on “Super Bowl Sunday and Domestic Violence

  1. miss j says:

    Hi Father. Yes, these guys have very strong feelings. They believe that being pro-woman is being anti-man. Of course, they know we don’t really hate men; they know researchers are not necessarily feminists; and they know that when we talk about men we are talking about those that commit violence not ALL men (At least, I think they know these points tho they don’t admit it).

    These guys don’t like their privileges being taken away from them. Some of the loudest critics are those that have had charges or convictions against them. Many of them say they were false allegations. There are, according to research and cases, more deniers than liars. Abusers rarely admit their abuse.

    They do try to silence us by their anger, words and threats. Yet we still need to bring this topic to the attention of the public, as you suggest – esp. to take allegations of abuse seriously and give credibility to women – they myth that they lie has led to more injury and murder when judges don’t believe them.

    Take care, Father, and thanks for visiting.

    • BLUPHEONIX says:

      What privilege?
      You name me ONE privilege that men enjoy in THIS country! Just one. You can’t, can you? Because there ARE NONE! All my life, I have heard feminist language, seen feminist practices. Feminists, hate men. PERIOD! No discussion. Because even in the article, the OP fails to “get it”. “They also like to throw in our face how evil women are – we kill babies, commit most child abuse, and are even more aggressive than men. ((Sorry guys, but we don’t have to be perfect in order to have protection against domestic violence, rape or stalking.))”
      Well, sorry ladies, we men don’t have to be perfect to enjoy protection from your false claims of rape and domestic violence.

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  3. Ross Romero says:

    Great point. I am a Catholic priest who erroneously quoted the myth as part of the prayers of the faithful at Mass today. After Mass, a man came up to me to discuss the issue. I genuinely did not know that it was a myth so I was interested to hear what he had to say about it. But after absorbing about five minutes of being humbled it occured to me that the strong feelings being shown by the guy about feminists, was more than the issue waranted. There are strong feelings of anger surrounding this topic and even if we quote a statistic it is still worth bringing it to the attention of the public at large.

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